When couples are in distress, they tend to focus on what their partner is doing wrong or what their partner isn't doing. This exercise begins to shift perspective from making one person the 'bad guy' in the relationship." —" title="" src="data:image/gif;base64, R0l GODlh AQABAIAAAAAAAP///y H5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" data-src="https://hips.hearstapps.com/rbk.h-cdn.co/assets/17/15/rbk_web_marriagedivorce03.jpg?' But you don't have to desire your partner, you just have to be willing to touch, caress, rub, kiss, hug, lean against, hold hands, massage.This is not supposed to lead to sex (although it can).Bonding as a pair means being the center of the other's undivided attention so thoroughly that you can feel a shift.Turn your phone off when you're with your partner, or at least put in on airplane mode, to feel that shift." —"People often focus on what is 'wrong' with their partner.
Bettering yourself makes you spark with joy and that joy is contagious and will spill over into your relationship, making it feel fresh again." — "Every day, write down 3 things that your partner did or said that made you happy or that you were grateful for.crop=1.0xw:1xh;center,top&resize=768:*" /"A major relationship problem these days is that there are more distractions than ever before, all of which are pulling us in a thousand directions.Even if you're not on your phone, listening for notifications means you're not able to give your partner all your attention.Just a simple hug or touch can help you feel more connected to your partner." "Therapy doesn't have to happen in a formal setting with a counselor.Simply setting aside uninterrupted time to talk to your partner can really help.