You've told us that you're lonely, and you long to be emotionally connected to someone.
Naturally, the first question to ask is why you were willing to get involved in something that would further distance you from your husband.
(We suggest that for the time being, that outlet not be Internet-related).
Having a routine helps keep you from wallowing in self-pity and allows your unconscious to process many of your emotions and thoughts.
We use the word "safe" in quotes because there are actually many dangers lurking in relationships that develop this way.
Some of those dangers include not knowing if an e-friend is telling the truth about himself, or has an ulterior motive behind the correspondence, such as using the correspondence as a "research project," or setting the other person up for a scam.
The dangers exist even if both people participating in the e-correspondence are honest and well-intentioned.
One way is to start following a "normal" routine: getting up on time in the morning, grooming yourself and getting dressed, helping your children get off to school and taking care of the younger ones, going to work or taking care of your responsibilities at home, and finding some sort of outlet for your anxiety, such as exercising, being creative in some way, or pursuing a hobby.Just like in "real life," the e-friends can feel deeply connected to each other.The Internet provides a "safe" venue for these friendships to flourish.Perhaps he has trouble relating to others interpersonally, can't function well in the "real world," or is afraid to put a face on the person who has revealed innermost thoughts and feelings.(And this is assuming that he's an honest person who hasn't created a virtual identity for himself.) His e-friend, who isn't content to maintain an entirely virtual friendship, becomes frustrated.