This is the 1st guy I've ever seen her date that she's actually taken things slow with.
This guy is ready for kids & marriage (he's never had either) & he's a little older than her, so she's not used to dating a guy that hasn't tried to sleep with her yet OR who genuinely seems to be focused on getting to thoroughly know her 1st. To her, 4 months of "dating" is a long time, since she's used to being in situations that are rushed.
I don't think there is a difference between "dating" and "being exclusive". Two month from first date (since some of you like to track this) Six months. When would you just conclude that you were in an exclusive relationship? But to her, dating is not the same as being in a relationship, since a person can technically "date" multiple people at the same time.
I think where people run into confusion is what is considered dating. I agree people should be up front and not leave the other guessing, but this happens a lot. And to her being exclusive is NOT the same as being in a relationship just yet.
To some, being "Exclusive" means agreeing not to have sexual relations with anyone else. Them not sleeping with others might just be their own way of practicing patience or abstinence, moreso that it indicating that they're committed to eachother.
so boys started asking girls to be their girlfriend.
them only concealing the goods out of respect, loyalty & commitment to the other person.
Back in high school, 2 people would know they were officially in a relationship b/c 1 person (usually the guy) would literally come right out & ask, "Hey, will you be my girlfriend?
If the person you have been seeing acknowledges that you are dating but doesn't want to use words like "girlfriend" or "boyfriend," she or he doesn't consider the relationship solid -- yet.
It is also possible that your partner simply doesn't like those particular terms, so you should ask.