When you’re asking the question of “When do you kiss her”, you’re asking the wrong question.
And critically, I’ve learned the most important part about the first kiss.
So maybe you’re on your second or third date and you’re busy scanning for signals that maybe she’s expecting you to kiss her.
You’re parsing her every word and body movement like it’s the Zapruder film and you’re trying to figure out where Waldo is in it and whether he was the shooter on the grassy knoll.
Even if it was in the middle of a crowded bar and some ugly sweaty dude was flirting with your date five minutes before you made your move – it will of your little slip. Nerd Love Facebook page and Twitter feed and it was almost a 2-to-1 case of “Make the move”, followed by a variation of “It depends/fine either way/I like them both”.
If you’re on your first date, the good-night kiss is almost ritualistic; I’m sure you’ve already gamed out in your head the moment you’re standing on her porch (or sitting in the car in front of her apartment building or what-have you), you’re saying your good-byes and how you had a great time and want to do this again and you can feel your palms sweating as you’re not sure whether to go for the kiss or a hug, whether to go for the cheek or the lips or just to just damn the torpedoes and hope that you’re getting a good-night beej instead of a dry peck on the lips.
Trust me, if she’s into it, she’ll be kissing you back.
Also: as a general rule, unless she’s been giving you unmistakable signs of sexual interest – that is, to the level of running her hands down the front of your pants – no tongue on the first kiss. First of all: always carry a pack of gum with you on a date.
Of the women who responded to the poll, the ones who preferred to be asked thought it was sweet and romantic. She may bite her lip or lick them, especially if you’re moving into close proximity.
This is one of the best, surest signs out there for when someone’s interested in being kissed.