However, after the relationship with the significantly older man ended I vowed to only date close to my age again.I think that there is definitely some truth to the "age is just a number" mentality, but having the experience I did, I don't buy it completely. Woman B: Twenty-seven and he recently turned 42 (we're still together). We discovered we had a lot of interests in common and became good friends. Most of the men I dated more casually at the time were in their 30s. It also made me feel special — this man seemed so much more worldly than the men my age, and the fact that he was interested in me seemed too good to be true. Woman D: Originally I think I was flattered that somebody who had experienced so much of life was interested in me. Woman B: I rented a flat in the backyard of his then-girlfriend. But I knew he was probably 10 years older than me and that was a little bit of the attraction, because I thought that he would be older and more settled with none of the bullshit that you have in your 20s.Did/does it impact sex at all, for better or for worse? This was one of the many ways the relationship was emotionally abusive — sex was always ostensibly on the table, but no matter how much I threw myself at him, I was always rejected. The fact that this man didn't want to have sex with me in spite of claiming to love me, in spite of the fact that men allegedly always want sex, in spite of the fact that they allegedly especially want sex with much younger women — all of this made the continual rejection especially painful. We have different tastes sexually — I'm more adventurous — but that has nothing to do with age.If anything, his emotional maturity has allowed us to have those tough conversations about sex.I guess that was the biggest impact on the relationship — I let him mold me into the girl he wanted instead of being who I really was. I don't think they expected it to last because I had never been in a relationship before.
As an 18-year-old, I thought they were close-minded.
Woman D: The impact on the sex was definitely negative.
At 18, I was just beginning to explore my sexuality and he was already comfortable in his.
We've had talks about what is nonnegotiable and about certain things he may be open to in the future. I think he was much more secure and caring of the awkwardness of sex than a 26-year-old.
But again, I think it's more because of who he is, rather than the more experience.