"I had a girlfriend who I was with for a long time and she wasn't into it," Albert says."There was definitely a thing in the back of my head like, ' I can't marry her.' How can I, knowing I can't go to all the places I can go with her? Before shelling out for a love potion on Amazon, join to seek out your soulmate. New visitors must set up an account to participate in Free Trial. connects users to thousands of singles in their area, and emails subscribers with compatible matches.Eventually, Todd did the deed with Miss Ladylike in the usual way, and continues to, but they still have a whole lot of anal sex. The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention estimated that in 2002, 38 percent of men ages 18 to 59 had entered a woman's back door.
After the forbidden territory has been conquered, some men find they have psychological issues with the act.Now that anal sex has been propelled higher on the mainstream menu by a hypersexualized culture and the proliferation of porn (see A few years ago, Albert says, he was hosting a party at a New York nightclub.A girl in attendance began hitting on him aggressively, and after the party they headed uptown to her Columbia dorm. "She went down on me immediately, in the kitchen, then came up and said, ' I want you to fuck me in the ass.' That's some porno shit that most guys dream about." And when he told his friends about it later, he brought down the house.He claims he hasn't had much trouble getting women to agree to it. It hurt them the first time, but after that they always said they enjoyed it—if not a little, then a lot."For other men, the appeal of anal penetration is less the novelty—and the fact that it gives them a good story to tell over beers—and more the psychology."For most of my friends, it's sort of a domination thing," says John (not his real name), 30, a writer in New York.