When giving her opinion, she said that she “felt a little wince” when told by a black male friend that he had tied the knot to a white woman.“When our people were enslaved, ‘Massa’ placed his Caucasian woman on a pedestal.” Scott said, “She was spoiled, revered and angelic, while the Black slave woman was overworked, beaten, raped and farmed out like cattle to be mated.She was nothing and neither was our Black man.”Uh-oh!But if you’re like most people, you probably love your family (whether you like them or not is different story).And when a family member threatens to withhold their love because they don’t like the possibility of someday having a son/brother/cousin-in-law whose skin color they don’t approve of, this can be a tricky situation to deal with.And while I’m sure you don’t need a history lesson to be convinced that breaking this firmly held taboo has always been a no-no, here’s a fact that may help you realize just how firmly held the taboo has been: the marriage ban of interracial couples lasted over a century past the civil war.Depending on where you live, it is possible that your own family may hold onto the beliefs that kept laws against different race marriages around for so long.
As we’ve said before, it’s not 1947, so dating black men will not likely get you threatened or incarcerated.
African-American women have occasionally had a thing or two to say about black male/non-black female relationships.
In an recent post for Essence magazine’s website, singer Jill Scott set off a firestorm of controversy around the topic of white women dating black men.
The challenge of dating black men also has a strange wrinkle: finding one.
According to a recent report in the New York Times, 1.5 million black men are missing.